The gap or space between Stimulus & Response.

A place we all need to go visit. One of those profound pieces of insights that if understood, appreciated and nurtured can form the super glue within any relationships. Stephen Covey shares a personal account in his life where he and his wife discovered the above mentioned phenomena and began to apply it in theirContinue reading “The gap or space between Stimulus & Response.”

Typical parent child conversation

Seven Habits of Highly Effective people – Stephen R Covey (The updated version by Sean Covey) Habit 5 Seek first to understand, then to be understood. From Page 284 to 291 – The typical parent child conversation. You have to read or reread this section before engaging in another conversation / argument with your sonContinue reading “Typical parent child conversation”

The Pool Party – A slightly different meaning in the Afro Latin social dancing scene.

I was trying to find some more lessons for solo salsa dancing when I stumbled across this casino partner dancing lesson. This is a very interesting video to watch for anyone out there that has never seen or experienced salsa dance lessons. If you realise that salsa dancers (under normal non Covid circumstances) follow lessonsContinue reading “The Pool Party – A slightly different meaning in the Afro Latin social dancing scene.”

Just like love ❤ it’s all about the music.

Still learning, trying, growing, making mistakes and sometimes starting all over again. Sometimes people tell me that they could never learn to dance and I tell them  “I still can’t 😃”  and if they think I can ……  …….then they can as well” The main requirement to be a good dance student is more aboutContinue reading “Just like love ❤ it’s all about the music.”

Who is my brother? Who is my neighbour? Who is my friend?

Mixed feelings about this last minute trip to England. as regards friends, family and even strangers. Sometimes we connect, get help and encouragement from the people we least expect. A friend of my late mum and myself that I have not seen for decades insisted that I stay to eat a meal with them despiteContinue reading “Who is my brother? Who is my neighbour? Who is my friend?”

True love and its chemistry, who can really explain it?

I actually know quite a few women in real life that I think like me. In some ways they are ideal dating candidates as regards character, personality, attractiveness, age, geographical location, family situation, independant financial standing and our shared passions and interest. I really enjoy my friendship with them and engaging with them in ourContinue reading “True love and its chemistry, who can really explain it?”

Our Inner Beauty

​ Our initial attraction to another human being is primarily  based  on what we see and hear in them but after a while as you get to know that person their inner soul or character comes to the foreground. It finally reaches the point that when you look at that person you see their innerContinue reading “Our Inner Beauty”

Defense Mechanism

When my second relationship ended in a second divorce within a year I was talking to my son about how I had moved in with my suitcases half unpacked because you have to be prepared that things might not work out. I think my son would be a better blogger than me because he doesContinue reading “Defense Mechanism”